E.L. James knows as much about BDSM as she would have found in a five minute Google search, which is to say that she knows precisely jack shit.
50 Shades of Grey does not depict a realistic kinky relationship, nor does it depict a healthy relationship of either the kinky or vanilla variety.
It is a Twilight fanfic, and has all the elements of Edward and Bella’s abusive relationship with kink added for extra flavor. Just as Edward and Bella are not a healthy or realistic couple, neither are Christian Grey and Anastasia Steele.
Christian Grey is an abuser who manipulates a young woman with zero knowledge of BDSM into a relationship with him. He knows she is ignorant of what a healthy BDSM relationship looks like, and uses this to:
- ignore and override her attempts at negotiation,
- play without a safeword (since she doesn’t know that they exist),
- create a false dichotomy of “either we’re kinky my way or we just don’t have sex at all,”
- threaten and stalk her,
- rape her,
- prevent her from discussing her relationship with anyone other than him,
- and control aspects of her personal life, including what car she drives, what medications she takes, and how she spends her free time.
This is not BDSM. This is not sexy. This is abuse.
Using 50 Shades as your basis for how a kinky relationship works (for critical or practical purposes) is like treating Titanic: The Legend Goes On as a historical documentary. Don’t do it.
I was hoping that we’d be over the 50 shades frenzy but I’m sure the new movie will make it crop up again, so here’s a reminder that it does not depict a health relationship or a BDSM relationship.
Lawyers for two Guantanamo Bay detainees cited the Hobby Lobby decision to argue for their clients’ rights to perform prayers during Ramadan. However, federal courts have argued that the detainees didn’t qualify as persons under the Religious Freedom Restoration Act. Wow.
I swear this just reminds me more and more of Animal Farm.
desperately selling stuff I love
didn’t think it would happen, but things have gotten worse
after an appointment thing, I returned to my car and a tire was flattened
so a garage was called, and a guy came out to help- in the process of removing my tire, he snapped off two of the studs
then he left and didn’t take any responsibility for it ?? and I called my insurance place and got towed to a garage, where I paid $150 for a pair of new studs and a used tire
this is not okay and there is no way that I can afford to get my stuff from columbus (which will be tossed in a week or so?), unless I somehow make a substantial amount of money quickly (like $400??)
another issue is that I don’t have access to most of my possessions, and thus can’t get at any of my rad goodies to sell beyond what I have with me
so I guess I’m selling my Mother 3 Deluxe Box for $400 (with franklin badge, GB micro, and all the inserts, but no cartridge)
and I guess I’m again willing to sell my beloved Ibanez RG1xxv electric guitar with a hardshell case for $875 (the pink on here)
I don’t want to part with either, but I have no other options beyond begging strangers on the internet, which is a thing that I don’t want to make into a habit
please consider signal boosting
Please help Lilith out if you can
We’re proud to present our first photoshoot picture! Our model is sporting the very first prototype of Axent headphones.
We received a lot of great feedback and constructive suggestions in our last post. We will take them all into consideration and make some changes in the next prototype. Over-the-ear instead of on-top-of-the-ear will be implemented in the next version, as well as new materials.
We’re very grateful for all the support and we hope everyone will continue to help us improve our headphones step by step.
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NBC producers of Constantine are making a bisexual character straight. Speaking to reporters at the Television Critics Association’s press tour, executive producer Daniel Cerone said Constantine’s sexuality isn’t an important part of his character and downplayed the character’s bisexual history as archived in 30 years of comic books.
In the comic books, Constantine alludes to past relationships with both women and men and is periodically depicted leaving the bed of male lovers. But NBC’s Constatine, played by Matt Ryan, doesn’t have any same-sex dates on his dance card at the moment, it seems.
And while Cerone is right in noting a few instances where Constantine was seen getting out of bed with a man, it was more than just "one or two issues." Throughout the comic, Constantine alludes to more than just a few sexual encounters with someone of the same sex.
It’s bad enough networks don’t create bisexual characters let alone when they "straightwash" one. Make your voice heard!
- Sign the Petition then signal boost it to your friends on Tumblr, Facebook, Twitter, and anything else you can think of
- Tweet using the hashtag #BiBlazer (A combination of Bisexual and Hellblazer) to stop the bi erasure of a canon bisexual character. Direct your tweets to @JohnConWriters and @NBCConstantine.
"you’re too young to know what your sexuality is" said the straight person to a queer teenager
"he’s such a ladies’ man" said the straight person about a 6 month old baby that doesn’t know what a lady is
Microsoft Excel took a turn for the explicit this week when the Internet learned the once-innocuous office tool was being used in a dispiriting new bro-trend: using the software to track of the number of times their partners refuse sex. Yes, #sexspreadsheets are a thing, presumably because some men still believe that owning of a penis entitles them to unlimited sexy times.
Where do I begin.
So I had the misfortune of finding out that a photo taken of me on vacation by my boyfriend, was stolen and used without my permission here on the lovely r/fatpeoplehate on reddit. It not only disappoints me that people think that this behavior is okay, but that this subreddit even exists and hasn’t been removed at this point. There are TONS of photos of (mostly) women posted there; selfies stolen their personal blogs/facebooks/instagrams what have you (WITHOUT THEIR PERMISSION), and posted on this horrible subreddit for people to harass them and leave hundreds of negative comments bravely behind their computer screens where no one can see them. I have always struggled with my weight and found it hard to get dressed and leave my bed some days, and have only recently started to accept the person I am after years of depression and health issues. I feel extremely violated and hurt that someone thought it was okay to take something that isn’t theirs, and use it for their own amusement and kicks.
We have since contacted reddit requesting them to remove this subreddit, but I find that doubtful considering how many removal requests they have probably received in the past for this forum, and it still remains active.
All I ask from you guys, is that you can please signal boost this post and hopefully get this horrible subreddit taken down for good for the sake of the poor unsuspecting people whose privacy has been violated and self worth diminished by these garbage people who have nothing better to do.
Fuck these people. Help me friend and many others who were violated and repost!